i’ve oftened wondered what makes you stronger: being able to forgive someone who has trespassed against you or being able to remain stone cold to their apologies. that’s a logical question, right?

let’s say if someone were to have treated you so incredibly poorly, called you names, betrayed you, kicked you while you were down… idealism defines that a strong person would be able to forgive the offender, as does the bible. but what happens when you just turn the other way, not letting them back into your life to perhaps ruin it once again. does that reflect a stronger code of ethics on the victim’s part?

there’s always this debate in my head where one part of my consciousness wants to be able to forgive and forget, while the other side says, “fuck them. you don’t need this. they had their chance and they blew it.” does that make me weak or does that make me strong? does a hardened soul equal a harder value structure? so many questions like this run through my head. the world is too full of upheld contradictions, merely there to confuse us.